Sekufu

We know, everyone is growing with different way of approach from their parents, different education background, different way of life and working style. Adik beradik pun berlainan perangai and habit, apatah lagi suami isteri yang asalnya ialah orang yang asing. Jadi, untuk mencari yang sekufu to be our partner is not an easy thing.

For me, this book describe Sekufu (well written by Aiman Azlan & Dr. Halina Halizah Siraj) is not sekadar "sebab saya Muet Band 4 jadi awak pun kena Band 4". Its not only about your education backgroud. But its all started with communications and how we embraced perbezaan yang ada with our partners by using an effective communication.

And its giving me a reminder that marriage is not about "You" & "Me", but its all about "Us" like one of the phrase in this book that said " Konflik yang berlaku tidak sepatutnya berakhir dengan 'saya menang kamu kalah'. Semua konflik mesti diselesaikan dalam kedua-dua pihak rasa berpuas hati. Apabila ada sebelah pihak yang terpaksa kalah, maka kedua-duanya telah kalah".

Tak dinafikan, sebelum berkahwin dengan A, both of us got our own standard who can be our 'ideal partner'. And i do think sekufu is important for my marriage. For me, he need to have same level of education with me (luckily A is much more smarter), same mentality (we got same wavelength)  and good personality are the criterias that im looking for in my ideal husband. And A got a long list of  his ideal type (he cater the list to make sure im included and fulfill all his criterias) 😜 

Alhamdulillah, its been 4 years we are married, i do think, meet someone that is sekufu really make some things easier. We just need to brush up our communication skills and will try to be more assertive than passive nor active in our daily communication.

I do learnt a lot from this book and  its help to refresh back my real purpose in this marriage "Untuk mencari keredhaan Allah", so me and A can meet again in the Jannah. InsyaAllah.

Last but not least, I do really recommend this book. Nice reading👍

That’s all from me.

Much Love,

Huda 💕

Treat your spouse as how you want to be treated


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